This term refers to the emotional and cognitive reaction to the readiness. The changes of readiness are pronounced, as you will learn in Chapters Six and Seven. But the system does not stop there. We can react to our body as much as our body reacts to our mind and emotions. Again, we are talking about a miraculous intimacy system, not a hedonistic hydraulic system.

“I just get so aroused when I see what happens to my body when I am ready to do it,” reported the husband. “I get red-like, full, eager-looking, like a real hunk, you might say. I never look better than at that time. I wish she could see me, but she never looks.”

“I’m not sure what you mean by how do I feel or think when my body gets ready. It just is ready to do it, to receive him. Do you think I should jump up, run to the mirror, turn on the light and look?” asked the wife.

“Sure, just as long as you run to the mirror with your spouse. Better yet, have a mirror and soft light nearby. See what it looks

like when the two of you happen with each other,” was the way I answered her.

The terms desire, interest, arousal, readiness, and excitement have been used so interchangeably that most of the couples found it useful to discuss their definitions. Try it in your own relationship; your communication will become not only wider, but deeper and more connected.

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